There
was a king who made love with his mistress, behind his wife. And one day, the
betrayal landed up in front of Queen. He did all to save his marriage. But for what:
Love, family or Society?
As most
people perceive gay relationships does not hold much role of society (unless
you are out to your circle) and family (unless you adopted a child, both being
a rare thing in typical Indian society). So, love is all it takes to hold their
relationship. But, why would someone have a physical relationship with some
other guy, unless he is not happily
committed with his partner?
"We
both are not much connected with other anymore.",
"I thought he is too seeing someone
else.",
"
Even after months of commitment, he never satisfied me.",
And,
the list goes on when one had to blame his partner for the betrayal he devised.
But, this story doesn't hold a bad partner. What if they were happily committed
for say an year, and then someday, he did it. He had sex with someone else.
Should
he be courageous to tell his partner that he did so, or should he hide it from
him? Will his partner forgive him or is it the "The End" of their
love story?
It
isn't an easy thing, i.e. being faithful in a gay relationship. There is
continuous churning of emotions in and around that too when most can't drop
those emotions to the people living around them. The kind of relationship I am
talking about are all serious relationships. Relationships that hold soul mates
theorem, relationships that are beyond parties and post parties, those selfless
relationship that everyone desires at a time in life, but unfortunately
couldn't meet up the requirements.
What
actually does a relationship require? Why and How it turns with time? And finally
what matters in the end? That’s all I will talk about. I may sound subjective
over emotions but the subject actually needs that delicate treatment under
strong shoulders.
Is love
is all it needs? Definitely not. Because love is never a need but an outcome
from our needs. You need to be cared, and that might someday turn into love.
You desire cuddling, kissing, holding, and that someday makes into love, you
need someone to understand you, hold you when you need, and be faithful to you,
that makes you to love him or her.
But, do
you realize how risky are your needs? Have you ever seen any advertisement of
mutual funds, they generally start with a placard saying, "Mutual funds
investments are subject to market change, please read the documents carefully
before investing." Relationships too hold the same funda. It's not a
personal bond, but a mutual one that too subjected to market change. And
reading the person is as important as reading those documents. And we read our
counterpart to have their care, faith, trust and finally love. Risks are always
involved, risk of being hurt, being betrayed, or hurting the other person. The
market (circumstances, emotions) is always changing, and it's always up to you
how long you will hold the invest in the funds (or relationship), irrespective
of the crunches visible in the market.
Relationships
these days do start on bed (couch-toilets-cars-etc), but that should and can
never be the first document to be read, and if done, the relationship will
surly won't last long. Remember, market change is never in our hand.
As
relationship ages, love grows, but it also witness the differences you both
hold, which may range from food to positions, ideologies to expressions. There
always comes a time when you think you can't take it anymore, and as in gay
relationship you aren't bonded legally to be together, the thoughts of break up
may conquer your mind. You may plan a betrayal, you may sleep with someone
else, but remember what matters in the end? A click of second, and parts of
wounded emotions create a trauma leaving behind the pages you both wrote
together for your present and future. A wrong stitch may ruin everything you
knitted in years. But, giving a chance in love is always feasible.
And you
know what matters in the end? It's that he makes you happy out of anything and
everything. Remember, this moment is momentary, life's way far beyond this.
The
King indeed loved her wife (I know you may not agree), he obviously loved his
family, and for the Kings, the society mattered a lot. And, of all he choose
happiness. And, he did all to regain it.
[Written for Gaylaxy Magazine]
[Written for Gaylaxy Magazine]